This is a guest post from Rose Cabacang, community manager for Wedding Favy, makers of uniquely fashionable and exquisitely chic wedding favors to promote a pleasurable wedding-planning experience.
One of the main highlights of any wedding is the moment when the bride and groom exchange their wedding vows. The heartfelt words and promises to one another make for a special moment that can be shared with the wedding guests. For those who want to convey their love for their soon-to-be spouse, there are a few tips to follow when it comes to writing heartfelt and meaningful vows that can be cherished for a lifetime.
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Keep it Short
Although you may feel inclined to pour out your heart before saying, “I do” to your significant other, this can make it easy for your partner and those in attendance to begin to lose focus and easily become distracted if you speak for too long. Keep the attention of your loved one and guests by limiting your vows to one to two minutes to ensure that it’s impactful and concise. Avoid going into detail about a past memory or when you first met, which can make it easy to lose focus on the purpose of the vows.
Although your wedding day and your commitment to your spouse is a serious event, it can also be lighthearted and fun with the vows that you write to ensure that you get a few laughs out of your significant other and your wedding guests. Make a joke about a funny habit that your spouse does each day, but avoid including any details that are overly embarrassing or cryptic. You can also allow your guests to feel included in the special moment by avoiding inside jokes or code words that others may not understand.
Write it Down
One of the most common mistakes that brides and grooms often make on their wedding day is assuming that they can remember their vows off of the top of their head. Unfortunately, it can be easy to forget what you want to say due once it’s time to talk. Write down your vows on a personalized notebook with a product that blends in well with the decor of your event. Although you may not want to stare down at the paper as you talk to your bride or groom, you can have it in hand to ensure that you’re prepared for what you want to say. The words that are written should be legible and easy to read to ensure that you don’t fumble over any of the words or have to pause while trying to read the paper.
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Make Specific Promises
The point of vows is to make promises to one another that you’ll keep in marriage to ensure that you can remain committed and in love. Make several promises that may include standing by one another or supporting each other with your dreams. You can also include light-hearted promises that includes giving back massages or always doing the dishes.
Practice Your Vows
It’s normal to feel nervous or uneasy as you prepare to say your vows to your significant other, but it can be easier to be ready for the special moment by practicing beforehand. Make it a point to stand in front of the mirror the day before your wedding to become more familiar with your vows to ensure that you feel comfortable conveying your message. This will make it easier to determine how to pace yourself and speak at an appropriate volume that your wedding guests will be able to hear.
Decide if You’ll Write the Vows Together
Some couples prefer to write their wedding vows together to ensure that they have the same theme and are appropriate for the special day. Pick a structure that you can both use to ensure that the vows are similar. You can also consider staying within a certain word count to avoid having one person speak for a longer period of time.
Leave Out the Cliches
You may assume that cliches are romantic or catchy, but it will make for generic vows that aren’t special or unique to your relationship. Include plenty of sentimental details to keep the vows original and specific to how you feel for your partner to ensure that you don’t borrow any overused phrases.
Do remember that your wedding vows will only be effective as long as you put sincerity and love in every ounce of each word. So if you intend to go for just a simple and short vow, go ahead, you will never go wrong as long as it’s from the heart.